How we build our life (part 2: long distance marriage)

Dah kahwin but still stay apart.. camne tuh? Masa kahwin, my husband already worked in Miri. We met about once in a blue moon...huhu ok.. once a month la.. kalau dia ada kerja kat semenanjung then that was a bonus for extra days.

Alhamdulillah it was just for 6 month, then we got a good news... yeay! Dapat pindah semenanjung... but based in Segamat, Johor and at that time I worked in Shah Alam... waaa sama jelah..yedak.. tapi ok sikitla..dapat la jumpa once a week.  My husband will come back on Friday night and will go back to Segamat on Monday morning. So during weekend will be my domestic goddess time... bahaha  After 6 month of marriage, I got pregnant. But, the embryo manage to be in my womb for around 12 weeks only. Allah knows the best..pasrah! Dah la jauh..ingat senang nak plan..huhu  Doctor have no reason the cause of the miscarriage. It is a normal things happen to a newly wed.  Yet, Alhamdulillah 2 month after that Allah gave us another chance to be a parent. The story will be in another entry la yer... Ok what does it takes in this kind of long distance marriage: 1) Lonely. Especially when you don't have child yet. 2) You have to be independent. Make sure the house is lock before you go to sleep, when your car broke down you know your emergency contact, go to the doctor by yourself when you are sick, sakit kaki urut sendiri etc. 3) Make sure you can be contacted that's mean handphone janganla asyik 'kong'.. nanti apa-apa hal senang la nak call ke, sms ke. 4) Know your limit. Jangan suka-suka nak borak-borak dengan mana-mana lelaki tak dikenali mahupun yang dikenali. To prevent bad mouth people. 5) The best part is you can still 'bergayut macam orang bercinta dok mengadap bulan purnama'. 6) Where ever you want to go or you want to do please inform to your spouse.  Macam-macam lagi pro and cons yang boleh disenaraikan like kurang gaduh ke but in our case macam dok serumah je..bahaha.. yang penting SABAR! Pengajaran for part 2: Jangan membandingkan perkahwinan kita dengan orang lain. Jauh atau dekat kuncinya SABAR. If you know you already get married, don't pretend that you are still single dengan alasan "husband I jauhla", "wife I bukan tahu pun"  that kind of thought is dangerous.